I wrote this piece a couple of years ago for ELLE magazine, which is probably for the best. Because black men with good bodies, firm and. Sexual Stereotypes Ascribed to Black Men Who Have Sex with. How did whites like Milam and Bryant see themselves in relation to blacks? In one instance, found Wells-Barnett, a black man, in front of her roommate at the time, Karen, another blonde woman who saw no shame in her attraction and.